Let’s Just Be Honest, Rachael.

For the past week, I have seen an article on social media that makes my blood boil. The article is about Australian model, Rachael Finch and her husband, Michael Miziner and how they enjoy child-free weekends, every weekend. They do so because it is, “healthy for their relationship,” Finch says.

Ahem. OK. Shaking my head every time I see the damn article pop up in my news feed.  NO!  Okay, no.  Leaving your child EVERY weekend so you and your husband can party, drink, sleep in, or just have some naughty time is not OK, Rachael.  The article states that the couple has been doing this since their daughter, Violet, was born.

This mindset infuriates me to no end.  When you become a parent, your prior life – especially the clubbing or sleeping in – becomes nonexistent.  Your life changes dramatically when you have a child.  I feel sorry for everyone in this situation.

I feel sorry for the child, Violet.  She is two-years-old.  I’m sure if she is anything like my two girls, they want mama… A LOT.  Not when it’s convenient for mama, but all the time.  It’s called a bond, a very strong bond that young children have.  I wonder if she goes to grandma’s house when she is sick?  Does she still pawn her off to her mother-in-law when Violet is running a fever?  And, Rachael is a model, former pageant queen, and who knows what else.  I HIGHLY doubt she is a stay-at-home mom.  And if she were, I might, might give her a pass.  But not really.

I feel sorry for Rachael and Michael.  They have no idea how much time they are missing out on their daughter’s life.  Memories that they could be making.  I don’t know where they live, but here in the United States, most family functions happen on the weekend – usually Saturday.  Sunday is normally a chill day.

I feel sorry for Michael’s mother.  Does she really want to watch her granddaughter EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND?  I know from my own experience, my mother watched my oldest child from the time she was 3 months old till about 10 months old.  She watched her four days per week so I could go to work.  But it got to a point when she told me, “this is getting to be too much.”  And I get it.  Raising tiny humans is exhausting.  I barely have the energy to entertain mine, let alone my mother who is double my age.

Something that really makes me cringe is the article from The Daily Telegraph quotes her as saying, “motherhood has completely changed her priorities.”  Really?  Are you for real?  Let’s be honest, Rachael.  If motherhood changed your priorities, you most certainly wouldn’t be shipping your beautiful daughter off every weekend.  I look forward to the weekends with my girls.  It is the only time I don’t have to rush out the door.  I love the smile on my 4-year-old’s face when she asks if we are staying home today, and I get to say, “yes.”

I know all parenting styles are different, and cultures play heavily into how you rear your child.  But, I would never want to be away from my kids during the week, and then the weekend too.  During the week, I have no choice.  I have to work to provide for them.  And even with that – working – comes guilt.  I cannot even imagine the guilt I would have if I left them every weekend.

Some parents are just more selfish than others.  That’s the honest truth.  And yes, this child will definitely have a strong bond with her grandmother.  But, will that bond grow stronger than with her own mother?  Only time will tell.

My children are my responsibility.  I don’t expect anyone to watch them for me.  I made the decision to have them, and even when I am mentally broke and want to run away… I would never.  I would never…

Image via Rachael Finch/ Facebook

Image via Rachael Finch/ Facebook

 

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3 Comments

  1. May 15, 2016 / 12:38 pm

    Amen girl! I’m a relatively young single Momma and for me, there is no in-between. I can’t be young and stupid while being someone’s mother. Motherhood isn’t 9-5 M-F job, its a round the clock weekends, too kinda job. As someone who grew up with a mother gone on weekends, I know that sh*t leaves an impact. Great post! (:

    • May 15, 2016 / 8:03 pm

      Yes, motherhood is 24/7, and single moms have it that much harder with no partner to assist. Thanks for responding!

  2. May 15, 2016 / 12:43 pm

    And for the record, as someone who was raised by a part time mom…me and my mother see each other maybe 3 times a year. And I can tell she feels it, too. But we never had a super strong bond. I learned to function sans a mother figure